Category Archives: Thoughts

You’re Not Done!

I just heard someone say that when your mind is telling you you’re done, you’re only 40% done.  We have all experienced this in a workout.  You are doing a 5 round workout and in round 3 your mind is telling you diggingthat you cannot go on, that there is nothing left. Yet you finish the workout.  We have all seen the poster of the guy digging the tunnel and he is quitting but he can’t see that he right about to break through to the other side with one more shovel full of dirt.

 

We know that we can learn to overcome this voice with practice.  If we continue push past our limits we find that we create new limits.  If we expect more of ourselves, we get more from ourselves.  The difficulty here is that pushing our limits is uncomfortable: it downright sucks.  The harder you push, the harder life pushes back.  It takes mental and physical strength.  The key here, just like in the gym, is consistency and progressive overload.

Train your mindset consistently.  Try to be uncomfortable every day.  However, what was uncomfortable yesterday is easy today so you have to keep pushing the boundaries.  It is easy to trick yourself by doing something that once was hard for you but now is relatively easy.  Don’t fall into that trap.  Keep pushing.

Get out of your comfort zone today.

Keep Your Head On A Swivel

In CrossFit we talk about Threshold Training.  We have a threshold speed where we can move without error.  Any faster and errors will start to appear.  The art of threshold training is that we need to ride that line.  Here’s the rub: the only way we can find that line is by crossing it.  You will never know how far you can go until you go too far.

There a few lessons here. One, push yourself harder, or as I like to say Work Fucking Harder!  You need to find that threshold because when you find that threshold, that is where the jet stream of adaptation occurs.  I read a fascinating book called “The Rise of Superman” that was all about how extreme sports are pushing the boundaries of human performance to unprecedented levels.  Most of the science in the book references the work of Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi and his book “Flow.” Flow states are what athletes and artists all describe as their most creative experiences when they perform at their best.  It turns out they are a phenomenon that we can study and measure.  These flow states occur when people push past their threshold.  So no matter what your endeavor, if you want to get the best results, push past that threshold.

The second lesson that you need to learn, is that going past your threshold can have negative consequences.  In extreme sports, that consequence is death.  Going faster and hitting bigger tricks comes with more risk.  The risks aren’t as dire when you are playing music or acting, but epic artistic failure in front of an audience can make one wish they were dead.

Keep pushing every day.  You won’t know whether you crossed the line until you look behind you.  So keep watching your back for that line.  That line is a moving target so it won’t be in the same place every time.  That’s why you have to keep your head on a swivel.  Be careful you don’t go too far because you will pay the price.   Work hard and stay safe.

 

The 2016 Open

The 2016 Open is over thank goodness.  It has been a while since I finished an Open and felt good about it.  Just finishing is a victory.  The ability to see things through to the end is a noble quality.  I always feel guilty about things I’ve left unfinished: books, movies, meals, workouts, etc.  There is some benefit to finishing a task no matter the outcome.  To some extent it is about keeping your word.  It is also about creating a habit of finishing what you start and learning to overcome the obstacles that stand in your way.

Feeling good about my performance is another matter altogether.  I wouldn’t say I performed great. I don’t feel particularly fit.  However, being in the top 10% of 45 year-olds seems objectively good.  Also this was a year I could do everything.  That is a check in the “win” column.

Additionally, I actually enjoyed the Open this year.  My enjoyment is partly based on my own performance.  I think people enjoy things when they feel good about how they perform and hate on things that they do poorly at.  I know in the past when I felt bad about how I did, I would get down on the Open.  I saw this in school as well.  If I asked someone how a class or a teacher was, the person’s answer was almost always based on their grade.

Creating a better relationship with how we judge our performances is important. Some people use a lot of negative reinforcement to get themselves to improve. For example, constantly telling themselves that they suck and they have to try harder.  With that mindset it is easy to get discouraged if things don’t go your way and it is also unlikely that you will ever be satisfied even if you achieve your goals.  However, if you view your efforts as the best you can do and also look at where they can be improved without the negative self-talk, you can still achieve your goals and be grateful when you do.

I remind myself to focus on the process.  I tell myself that I have what it takes but I need to work fucking harder to achieve my goals.  I remind myself that achieving my goals won’t bring me happiness, it’s doing the work to get there that will bring me satisfaction.  Do the work. Enjoy the work.

A Case Of The Mondays

Most people view Mondays as an ordeal.  It’s “Here we go again!” another week of work and getting back to the grind.  I understand that, in fact, I often still feel like that. It’s normal to have negative emotions, but before I let the negative emotions take hold, I try to shift my mindset.

I take a moment to be grateful for all the good things that happened over the weekend.  Then I take another moment to think of all the exciting things I have in store for the day and the week.  Yes, it’s raining and cold.  Yes, I’m tired and cranky.  Yes, I am going to stop eating crap.  Yes, I am going to work out.  Yes, I’m going use Monday to my advantage.  Yes, I get to play with my son and cook for him and feed him.  Yes, I get to coach people and try to make their lives a little better.  When you start looking for positive things, you find more positive things.  All it takes is that shift in mindset.

Take some time today and look for some good things about Monday.

The Mindset of Injury

When I get injured it’s easy to get wrapped up in a wave of negative emotions.   I feel stupid and I get down on myself.  “How did I let this happen?  This is going to set back my training!  What about my #gainz? Fuck it, I’m eating ice cream!”

Injuries, like any set backs, are an ever-present concern. With hard training comes the inevitable bump, bruise, sprain or worse.  We have to learn strategies to deal with injuries.  Just like any obstacle we can let them stop us or we can find a way around them.

The first step is to take responsibility.  Even if you were struck by lightning, you have to own it.  It’s your injury and you have to take 100% responsibility for it.  Don’t blame others.  Blame will only make you angry and slow down the process that will get you better.  Take charge of the injury and figure out what has to be done whether it’s resting or doing rehab or getting the proper medical care.

The second step is to frame the injury as an opportunity.  Maybe training has taken away time from another part of your life that needs some attention.  Maybe this injury will allow you to train other neglected aspects of your fitness.  Maybe this injury can teach you something about your body.

Step three is to manage your pain.  Whether that pain is physical or emotional or both, you have to confront it and deal with it.  Alcohol and sugar and drugs will numb the pain but won’t make it go away.  You have to be brave and do the things that heal the pain.  Sometimes it means having hard conversations with people.  Sometimes it means doing rehab exercises or meditation.  It could mean changing the way you eat or other habits in your life that make the pain worse.  Living with pain over time will make you miserable so confront it now.

What you don’t want to do, what will ruin you, is to let the injury stop you dead in your tracks.  Don’t let the injury turn you off of the thing that you love.  Don’t let it make you bitter.  Don’t let it turn you off your path down the road of self-medicating and self-destructive behavior. Don’t let it stop you from reaching your goals or being the best version of your self.  You reside in your body but you are not your body.  Your body may fail but that doesn’t mean your light has to diminish.   Keep finding ways to be and do your best no matter what.

 

Qs

When a coach uses a cue it is a shorthand way of getting the athlete to change their behavior.  “Chest up!” is a way of getting the athlete to engage their back muscles harder to lift their chest and put them in a better position.  What you say is almost irrelevant as long as the athlete understands the appropriate response. That means there has to be some common understanding of what follows from that short phrase.  I might yell at an athlete to “Stop sipping tea!” which without some context means nothing.  But if I previously chastised them that when they hold a barbell with a loose grip and their pinky fingers extended it looks like they’re sipping tea, then that cue can have an effect.

It turns out we are slaves to cues whether we know it or not.  Studies have shown that people eat more popcorn when it is served in a bigger container regardless of their hunger and regardless of how good the popcorn is.  We subconsciously eat until the food is gone.  We take an empty plate or an empty bucket as a cue to stop eating.  When I prepare food, I try to portion it out and store it in plastic take out containers.  That way when I eat, I know exactly how much I am getting and do not keep putting food on my plate until it overflows.

There are many ways to use cues to ingrain habits.  I know people that put their workout clothes right next to their bed before they go to sleep.  That way they can’t talk themselves out of walking across the room when it’s cold and they don’t want to get out of bed.  Putting the clothes on is another cue that it is time to work out.  I know some people that take a pre workout drink just because it signals them that the next thing that follows is the workout.  My post workout shake is a reminder to me that I should take my vitamins and fish oil.

While living our lives on auto-pilot is not ideal.  We should use the power of the unconscious cue to help us complete the tasks that need doing.  Using cues to create positive habits is a recipe for success. Similarly, identifying other negative cues that lead us to sabotage our efforts is just as important.  Whenever I drink alcohol, I tend to always follow it with eating pizza, ramen or ice cream.  It makes me very cautious of drinking now especially when I am trying to adhere to my diet.  The next step is to disassociate those things so that I can drink without compounding the negative effects with junk food.

Currently, I have been using the Macros+ app on my iPhone and because I check it before and after I eat and when I wake up and before I go to bed it has become helpful in tracking how much I eat.  When I am really good, I plan all my meals for the next day and then I don’t have to think about what I’m eating.  More importantly, I don’t take any other cues for how much food I should be putting on my plate.  The menu is set and I don’t have other options that I have to consider.  It might sound small but it really helps tremendously, because if I enter the refrigerator hungry and without a plan anything can happen.

Try planning some things the night before. Perhaps setting some alarms in your phone for when you need to workout.  Or placing some post-it notes on your computer to remind you to run an errand.  Put your running clothes next to your bed.  Write out a menu for tomorrow and tape it to the outside of the refrigerator.  Start eating off smaller plates.

The point is to free up mental energy by creating a domino effect.  Start with the smallest thing to tackle and once that is done, the next domino should fall a little easier. We have all seen the way dominoes fall when lined up. but did you know that each falling domino could knock down another domino that was 50 percent bigger.

How Do You Talk To Your Body?

I am constantly fascinated by the human body and the potential therein.  I tend toward pessimism and often see the faults in people.  I ascribe this to years of law school training (truth be told, my pessimism probably drew me toward law school).  Nonetheless, I often sit in judgment of people and find fault with how they move, live, act, etc.  It’s a terrible quality.  I try very hard to temper that quality and balance it out with actively looking for the good in people.  I know that deep down, people want to be good, they are trying hard and making the best choices they can at the moment.  And, if they aren’t, they usually just need a reminder to be their best selves.  They don’t need to be told they suck, because most people tell themselves that on a daily basis.

The human body is amazingly resilient. We demand a lot of our bodies on a day to day basis and our bodies respond by doing the best they can to meet our needs and do what we ask despite how shitty we treat our bodies.  If you were to look at the relationship most people had with their bodies, it would seem like an abusive relationship.

abuseImagine you and your body were going out on a date.  You feed it cheap food and then expect it to put out.  You tell your body it is ugly and fat, then expect it to put out.  You abuse your body physically pushing it to its limit and punish it with more reps or more miles and it expect it to come back for more.  When your body tells you it’s in pain, you tell it to suck it up.  You don’t let it sleep and instead give it more caffeine.  You sit it down in front of the TV and bombard it with negative, violent images.  When your body quietly asks for time off, you ignore it.  When it finally can’t handle it anymore and gets sick or injured, you scream at it for letting you down.  It goes on and on until, one day, it can’t and your body just gives up.

Does this sound familiar?  As a pessimist, I could say that’s our nature and we are doomed.  However, I want to believe that we can change our behavior once we recognize how terrible it is. Once we see how we treat our bodies, once we really hear how we talk to our bodies, we can start to treat ourselves with more kindness.  Treating your body with love and kindness and respect will not make you weaker.  Your body will flourish and grow stronger once you give it some respect.

I was watching this great documentary by Chris Bell called “Trophy Kids.”   The parents in this movie push their kids to be athletic superstars but end up coming across like terrible, abusive parents.  You can see how the kids actually perform worse when their parents are there berating them and when the parents leave, the kids are happier and perform better.  It’s the exact opposite of the what the parents are trying to accomplish and it all has to do with the way they treat the kids.  Watch this movie.  Listen to how you talk to yourself and others.  Try to treat yourself and others like you are on a date.  Be the best version of yourself. Try to impress your body with how well you treat it.  Be kind, be honest, be caring, be attentive and watch things start to flourish.

Methods are many. Principles are few.

The proverb says, “Methods are many. Principles are few. Methods always change. Principles never do.”  Once you understand the principles you can begin to create your own methods to apply them.  The beauty of this too is that you accelerate your learning and abilities by being able to apply key concepts to different areas.  For example, if you understand the principle behind midline stabilization.  You can create numerous methods for bracing your spine with your breath and your abdominal muscles in every situation where it is applicable.

“As to methods there may be a million and then some, but principles are few. The man who grasps principles can successfully select his own methods. The man who tries methods, ignoring principles, is sure to have trouble.” — Harrington Emerson

I see the value in many different methods and I am always on the look out for more methods with regard to everything in my life.  I believe most people are drawn to methods.  Look at what we consume in regards to cook books, self help books, workshops, gadgets: all methods to improve our life.  However, I try not to lose sight of the principles.  I am often the first to dismiss methods that come from faulty principles or principles that I do not agree with.  Methods born from strong principles pass muster and stand the test of time.

Take a look at the principles behind which you set up your life.  There an invisible script that holds the keys to the principles by which you and I live our lives.  That invisible script is the code for whether we believe people are inherently good or inherently bad.  It is the script that tells us whether we are worthy or unworthy of love, money, happiness, success, etc.  Deep down we have a script that formed a principle that formed the method by which we live our life.   Sometimes that script is working in our favor and sometimes it is not.

One way to improve your odds of success in any endeavor is to examine your fundamental beliefs and the script that they arise from.  Try to rewrite it to be more favorable.  Like when we are ill we try to combat the symptoms, but you can only really get better if you go and kill the virus that infected you in the first place.  I have a script that tells me I’m entitled to things.  It comes from being an only child and a son and the oldest of all my cousins.  This entitlement script gets me in trouble because it leads to false expectations about what I deserve.  Those expectations are seldom met and often lead to disappointment and resentment.  A feeling of entitlement does not create a strong work ethic.  I can come off as a slacker.  I can come off as a jerk. Spoiled. Arrogant.  Ungrateful.  Not great qualities.  I haven’t killed the virus yet. However, the fact that I know it’s there and can recognize the symptoms helps me fight it.  When I feel resentful, disappointed, or ungrateful, I look and see if it’s based on me feeling entitled.  When I merely act appreciative and show gratitude I feel like the virus is weakened.  Now that I understand the principles, I have methods to rewrite the script, and methods to fight the symptoms.

Take a look today at what’s not working in your life.  What are the principles that govern those faulty methods.  Then go a layer deeper and ask what is the invisible script that created these principles.  But do not get down on yourself.  Do the same query for the things that are working in your life.  There is a lot more going right than going wrong, I assure you.

 

Advanced Kettlebell Course

I spent the weekend taking the CrossFit Advanced Kettlebell Seminar with Jeff Martone.  The content was divided between what I call “Old School” and “New School.”  The Old School stuff was rotational work with the kettlebells most notably the Windmill and the Bent Press, two lifts that are synonymous with physical culture.  Look at this iconic photo of Arthur Saxon.  How cool is that?  arthur_saxon.fw_

The new school content was what is known as Girevoy Sport or Kettlebell Sport.  In this sport like Olympic Weightlifting there are 3 contested lifts: the snatch, the clean, and the jerk.  However, unlike Olympic Weightlifting, this is an endurance sport where athletes compete to complete as many reps as possible (usually in 10 minutes) of either snatch, clean & jerk (“long cycle”) or jerk (“short cycle”).  They basically stand in one place and lift the kettlebell(s) as many times as they can without putting it down.  When competing with a single bell, they are only allowed one hand switch.  The bells can not be put down.  Merely standing and holding one or two kettlebells for 10 minutes without putting them down can be arduous.  Imagine exercising non stop for that time.

Personally I was excited to work on Windmills and the Bent Press was a move I have struggled with and was eager to get some pro tips on how to do it correctly.   I have had some exposure to Girevoy Sport through friends but never really had any desire to do it.  However, I was fascinated by the fact that my female friends could do 100 kettlebell snatches on each arm without putting the bell down.  My best was around 27.  So clearly there was something to be learned about efficiency.

I prefer the kettlebell moves where I do 3 to 5 reps per side and put the bell down.  When we got to the KB Sport section of the course I was less enthusiastic to be doing longer sets of cleans, jerks and snatches.  However, Jeff was able to layer on so many effective techniques to help relax.  The goal as he described it was not a powerful effort but effortless power.  With each passing set he cued different ways to stand without tension, to relax whatever body part wasn’t working like your face or the opposite arKB_Sport_Featurem.  He emphasized “anatomical breathing’–breath coinciding with the position of the body.  Constantly breathing and not holding the breath.  He emphasized a relaxed grip and different ways to minimize the stress on the grip.

By the end of the weekend we tested out with a set of 30 snatches on each arm with a 20kg kettlebell.  It was the easiest 60 kettlebell snatches of my life. I was shocked at how little I was winded after the effort.  My grip was taxed but I never felt like I had to drop the bell nor was I afraid it would fly out of my hand if I dared to do another rep.  I was a little surprised because, if you have ever spent two straight days swinging kettlebells, then you know your hands are just rubbed raw and your hamstrings are smoked, I thought for sure I was going to struggle to get to 30 reps.  I didn’t.  It was effortless power.

It made me start to wonder if I could use these techniques to do 60-100 reps of any exercise.  Martone claims that the Russians use that 100 rep milestone for squats and deadlifts and lots of other exercises.  Certainly being more efficient and more relaxed and breathing more would have to carry over.

I’m lucky if I breathe once per rep.  We learned that on just the swing itself you take two breath cycles.  Additionally, when you receive the bell there is an exhale, when you lower the bell there is an inhale.  If you rest with the bell in the rack or overhead, you continuously puff out short exhales.  Ultimately, there is way more breathing going on in one rep of a kettlebell snatch than I had previously imagined.  This breathing helps a lot in being able to sustain longer efforts.  I think about what I do in a set of wallballs or burpees and realize I am not breathing nearly as frequently as I could… or should.

Further exploration is required.

 

Aggregation of Marginal Gains

I read this blog post a couple of years ago and the concept has stuck with me.  The idea of lots of 1% improvements to take you to the next level.  I think holds a lot of value in thinking about life and fitness.  If you were to take each thing in your day and make it a little better, your whole life would be improved.  Big changes are hard, little changes are easy.  For example, Tim Ferris, author of The 4-Hour Work Week, once mentioned that he takes a “3-breath break” from time to time.  He finds it extremely difficult to spend 10 minutes meditating and gets lost trying to count to ten breaths.  So instead of doing no meditation because it’s too hard, he simplified to taking a few 3-breath breaks throughout the day to calm his mind.  marginal-gains

Find it too hard to exercise every day and find yourself doing nothing?  How about doing a pushup or a squat?  Certainly you can do that.  How about once in the morning first thing and once before bed? Easy.  The point is you’re not going to get fitter doing 1 pushup and 1 squat a day but going from zero to one is a huge hurdle.  Once you are over the hurdle things get a lot easier.

If your email inbox is getting too full start unsubscribing from one email list a day.  Over time it will unclutter your inbox.

People struggle with making huge diet changes all at once.  Instead drink one less soda a day.  Eat one more serving of vegetables.  Order a salad instead of fries.  Instead of chicken covered in bread crumbs get grilled chicken.

I love the way this philosophy is built into CrossFit.  On any given day you are going to do either gymnastics, weightlifting or monostructural activities and going to challenge yourself to do more reps, more weight and/or go faster.  You are going to work at an intensity that is high enough for you to cause your body to adapt.  You won’t adapt all at once, you will adapt a little tiny bit across any and all of these 10 General Physical Skills: Strength, Cardio-Respiratory Endurance, Stamina, Flexibility, Power, Speed, Coordination, Accuracy, Agility, and Balance. Eventually, the synergistic effect will be a level of fitness that is broad, general, and inclusive.

Expanding this out to life, we just need to make small gains every day in each area with respect to family, work, friends, and community to continue to grow and get better.

What I find happens is a snow ball effect. As you start to make small changes, the next wave of changes become easier.  You start eating more vegetables and then you start remembering to take your fish oil.  You start drinking more water and then you start exercising more.  You start exercising more and then you start meditating more.  Eventually you get in the flow of doing little things to improve yourself and find less ways to sabotage yourself.